I recently went to this mini workshop called Shine for Women with my girlfriend Kelly. With no expectations, other than to perhaps learn something new, I left feeling inspired, motivated and keen to run home and put all of my newfound insight to work. Hard to believe all of that can come from a few hours with strangers and two glasses of wine, right? Well, let me explain…

The whole point of this encounter, from the Shine for Women website, is to “maximise individual potential and deliver personal impact.” I only did an introductory session, however the full two-day seminar is where “participants are challenged and coached to build a bigger vision and plan that gives renewed energy and focus to their professional and personal lives.”

So, that might feel a little heavy… let me sum up my experience for you. Through a couple of different activities intended to put you outside of your comfort zone, I began sharing my most unattainable and impossible dreams with complete strangers. In removing the “I can’t” and adding a “what if you could do ANYTHING you wanted” we started sharing. And what came out of my own mouth made me feel vulnerable and, quite frankly, laughable. These ideas had only ever been just that – ideas. Thoughts. “Silly” dreams that weren’t possible because I could never be good enough, talented enough, special enough, to ever actually have them. More importantly, as these strangers started to share too, like clockwork woman after woman began to fall in line with the same patterns as me. Justifying why their thoughts were ‘ridiculous’ and how embarrassed they were to verbalize their wants and desires. Up until this point I had considered myself alone in this way of thinking (ridiculous does apply here). But still, I had never really had these conversations with girlfriends, and realized that we all had this voice inside our heads telling us ‘no.’ Why the hell is that?

I found it interesting to hear that the majority of men measure success in their life against one avenue – home life, career, bank account… if they experience success in any one area of their world, that is the level that everything else rises to and they gain a general sense of accomplishment. For the majority of women however, we measure our success against life as a whole, considering each individual department. She may have her dream job, a rocket body, and a loving relationship with her partner, but if she has a book she has been trying to get published for 3 years without success, she feels overall unsuccessful. Huh. I do that to myself all the time.

Leaving Shine I knew that I was going to go home and start mapping out a blog of some sort. Comparable to my life in general, there isn’t a mainstream focus here. The reason I chose to do this is not because I’ve been harbouring a deep and burning desire to blog. In fact, this is very scary… exposing your thoughts/feelings/opinions to the universe and leaving yourself open to scrutiny. What if people think my blog is stupid? What if people think I’m stupid? What if I don’t have time to perfect each entry? There are so many blogs out there, who cares what I have to say? What if I share an opinion and people disagree and I can’t explain myself? Judgement… Hate… Indifference! Sounds like a nightmare, right? I chose to blog because I feel like I have something to share, and allowing myself to do this is personal growth. Similar to my Shine experience where I found value in the sharing process, perhaps others will find that here.

Let go of being afraid of what other people think.
Get out of your own way.
Quiet that voice that says you can’t.
Try something new, and see what happens.


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  1. Leaving your comfort zone takes a lot of courage. Look at all the support you receive when you step out. Wow, so much love. Looking forward to more!!
    Love Mom


  2. So thrilled you are ‘putting out there’ your incredible writing skills, personal thots and special ‘you’. You truly are my ‘diamond in the rough’. Keep writing and sharing Ape…you have SO much untapped talent yet to be revealed!!
    Love you more than all the stars in the galaxy.
    Aunt Lezlee


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